I have lync and lync edge 2010 replicating porper

my issue is that how can I get federate with my 365 porper 

The main problem is that I have a sip .local instead of .com  and be very time consuming to change it

Anyway I can get my 365 and onsite lync 2010 to see each other

To federate over the Internet?  As time consuming as it may be, you'll need to use the .com (or whatever domain matches your primary email address) so you can obtain and use a third party certificate that others will trust and allow you to populate external DNS. 

Short of that, you'd have to use self signed certificates and have partners import them and manually hardcode your access edge server name in.  This in the end would be more time consuming and troubl

so there no way to get this work as is .. like using director pool or some other system?

Not really a good way around it as your DNS records and certs will need to point at this domain for federation regardless of a director server or anything else. 

my second question before I change anything my onsite sip domain will be the same as 365 domain 

Will this work that I can have both as abc.com

Are you using Lync in O365?  If so, then they can't be the same until you upgrade to Lync 2013: http://blogs.msdn.com/b/leoncon/archive/2013/05/15/hybrid-lync-2013-and-lync-online-aka-shared-sip-domain-space.aspx

If not, and you want some Outlook/EWS integration, then yes this should work.